I am not much of an advice giver. If you know me well enough you will find that my advice most of the time is to suck it up, and change your attitude (that and if we talk about music I will probably make fun of your musical tastes and advise you towards Converge or The Wonder Years). I’ve been told countless times that I’m cold and unsympathetic, usually with a tone of condemnation. The more I think about it though, the more I am right. Most of the time when I get to that spot of heartlessness the best thing for the person is to focus on what they can control. It is a purely logical frame of thinking, but I’m an extremely logical person (even to a fault at times). What interests me the most is that I am being empathic, I put myself into their shoes, and that’s what I come up with. It is typically a statement like “you can’t change that, but you can change your attitude about it” or “you need to find the positive things in this.” Probably not the best things to say to someone who needs comforting but that’s who I am and that’s what works for me.
On a similar note: I think I’m one of the most posi and level headed people around, which from everything I have been reading lately is prime for what I want in life. I don’t see myself changing on this front much, I have always been this way, what I do see is me honing the craft and using my rationality a little more rationally.